But You Seemed So Happy: A Marriage, in Pieces and Bits - Paperback

by Kimberly Harrington (Author)

In this tender, funny, and sharp companion to her
acclaimed memoir-in-essays Amateur Hour, Kimberly Harrington explores
and confronts marriage, divorce, and the ways love, loss, and longing shape a
life.

Six weeks after Kimberly and her husband announced their
divorce, she began work on a book that she thought would only be about
divorce -- heavy on the dark humor with a light coating of anger and annoyance.
After all, on the heels of planning to dissolve a twenty-year marriage they had
chosen to still live together in the same house with their kids. Throw in a
global pandemic and her idea of what the end of a marriage should look and feel
like was flipped even further on its head.

This originally dark and caustic exploration turned into a
more empathetic exercise, as she worked to understand what this relationship
meant and why marriage matters so much. Over the course of two years of what
was supposed to be a temporary period of transition, she sifted through her
past--how she formed her ideas about relationships, sex, marriage, and divorce.
And she dug back into the history of her marriage -- how she and her future
ex-husband had met, what it felt like to be madly in love, how they had changed
over time, the impact having children had on their relationship, and what they
still owed one another.

But You Seemed So Happy is a time capsule of sorts.
It's about getting older and repeatedly dying on the hill of being wiser, only
to discover you were never all that dumb to begin with. It's an honest,
intimate biography of a marriage, from its heady, idealistic, and easy
beginnings to it slowly coming apart and finally to its evolution into
something completely unexpected. As she probes what it means when everyone assumes
you're happy as long as you're still married, Harrington skewers engagement
photos, Gen X singularity, small-town busybodies, and the casual way we make
life-altering decisions when we're young. Ultimately, this moving and funny
memoir in essays is a vulnerable and irreverent act of forgiveness--of
ourselves, our partners, and the relationships that have run their course but
will always hold profound and permanent meaning in our lives.